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“If you love a flower, don’t pick it up. Because, if you pick it up it dies and it ceases to be what you love. So if you love a flower, let it be. Love is not about possession. Love is about appreciation.”

Osho

Your partner can't read your mind no matter how much he or she loves you!

7 Times to State the Obvious in Your Marriage - Prepare/Enrich Stating the obvious may feel unnecessary, but it’s actually helping you avoid a lot of unnecessary frustration and conflict in your marriage.

This is a great article about differentiation written by my colleague Dr. Tom Paderna.

Between Autonomy and Attachment in Relationships — Counseling Col:lab How do you stay close to your partner without losing yourself? Explore how autonomy, attachment, vulnerability, and trust work together to build a stronger relationship.

“A relationship without trust is like a car without gas. You can stay in it all you want, but it won’t go anywhere”

Michael J. Herbert

If you marry someone with the idea that they will change to be the person you want them to be you will most probably be disappointed. People only change when they want to, not because you want them to.

“Forgive, forget. Bear with the faults of others as you would have them bear with yours. Be patient and understanding. Life is too short to be vengeful or malicious. “
Phillip Brooks

Which of these invisible roles are you, or your partner, taking on in your marriage?

The Invisible Roles in Marriage - Prepare/Enrich You might not realize it, but you've likely taken on invisible roles in your marriage. Here are 4 examples and what to watch for with each one.

I recently read "The ADHD Effect on Marriage" book by Melissa Orlov. Here is an article from her blog.

What is Parent-Child Dynamics, and is It in Your Relationship? | ADHD and Marriage Posted by MelissaOrlov on Wed Apr 16th, 2025 - 10:34am Start here Parent-Child Dynamics (PCD) is the most common pattern we see in ADHD-impacted relationships. It’s a co-dependent pattern, in which one partner (often a non-ADHD partner or a female ADHD partner) over-functions in the relationship, ...

“The degree to which we have compassion for ourselves is directly to the degree in which we can offer compassion to others”.

Matt Boggs

For you parents; do your children play you against each other? For example, do they ask for something and not get the answer they want? Then, do they go to the other parent in hopes of a different answer? It’s important to present a united front. Let your child know you will have to ask the other parent before you answer. If you need to give consequences for a behavior, tell your child you will talk to the other parent and together you will decide as a consequence. Then together tell your child what the consequence is. This way they know you are together on this decision. Of course, parents need to be consistent as well. Remember, you are raising the future!