Calmbodyworks

Being Comfortable with Uncertainty

I recently attended a five-day Tao Touch workshop in Grass Valley.

I actually attended the same workshop around this time last year, so this was my second time.

Last year, it was held at a retreat center surrounded by nature. It felt as though I was learning inside a cocoon, gently protected and nurtured. It was such a peaceful, comforting experience.

This year, however, the workshop took place in a classroom at a hotel in town.

There wasn’t quite the same separation from everyday life, and the environment didn’t have that protected, cocoon-like feeling.

But something really interesting happened.

One of my biggest realizations was:

“Wow, I’m holding so much less tension in my shoulders than I was last year!”

Even when my surroundings weren’t necessarily comfortable, I was able to stay connected to myself and grounded in the earth.

And realizing how much more naturally I could do that compared to last year was such a wonderful surprise.

Another thing that really stayed with me was something our teacher shared about

“the difference between Sensitivity and Reactivity.”

We often hear about being a “highly sensitive person,” and when we feel things intensely, our instinct can be to protect ourselves from those feelings, or to try not to feel them so much.

But our teacher suggested something quite different.

“Allow yourself to feel even more deeply and sensitively.”

Fear, discomfort, the subtle messages from our bodies, the vibrations of energy around us…

Rather than trying to push anything away or change what we’re experiencing, we can simply sense it all, clearly and openly, like a perfectly clear mirror reflecting whatever is there.

And through it all, we can remain connected to ourselves and grounded in the earth.

Being sensitive and being reactive are two very different things. We can feel things deeply without losing our connection to our own center.

This was actually something I had already begun to sense within myself recently.

But hearing our teacher put it into words brought so much more clarity. It became something I could recognize and understand, both in my body and in words.

And wouldn’t you know it, I got an opportunity to practice this very lesson on my drive home! 😂

As I was driving, a thought suddenly popped into my head:

“Wait a minute… Did I actually pack my favorite jacket in my suitcase?”

I was pretty sure I had.

But was I 100% certain?

Nope…

In the past, I might have pulled over to check.

But this time, I remembered how carefully I had gone through my belongings before leaving.

And I thought, “Knowing how thorough I was, I’m pretty sure I packed it. I can trust the me who took care of things earlier.”

Of course, the uncertainty was still there.

It wasn’t exactly a comfortable feeling.

But somehow, even that discomfort had a place within me.

It felt as though all the different parts of me were having their own little conversations, each expressing what they wanted or needed, and nobody was being left out.

The part of me that wanted to get home as soon as possible.

The part that was still a little worried about the jacket.

They were both welcome.

And with all those feelings present, I chose to trust myself and keep driving.

As I sat with that experience, I found myself smiling and thinking,

“Ohhh… This is exactly what I’ve been learning all week!”

I don’t have to be 100% certain to be okay.

I don’t have to eliminate uncertainty to be at peace with it.

And becoming more sensitive doesn’t necessarily mean becoming more vulnerable to being hurt.

Perhaps it means being able to experience the world more deeply while remaining connected to my own center.

I’m looking forward to gently weaving what I received during these five days into my everyday life, little by little, without pushing myself.

I don’t have to do it perfectly.

Whenever I notice I’ve lost that connection, I can simply come back to myself and the earth.

And that’s enough. 🌱

This is why I love Toji, Japanese hot spring healing. Wellness retreat Sept 10-13 in Japan

🐾心が動いた瞬間　10🐾

「境界線とは、
自分と相手を“同時に”愛せる距離感の事」

“Boundaries are the distance at which you can love you and I simultaneously”

今週、Podcastでこの言葉を聞いて、
思わず「そうなのよ‼︎」ってなりました😊

去年の終わりからずっと向き合ってきた「境界線」のこと、
これ以上ないくらいシンプルに表してるなぁって👍👍

境界線ってさ、
どっちかが我慢することじゃないんだよね。

自分も、相手も、
どっちも“同時に大事に”できてる距離。

これ、頭では分かってたつもりだったけど、
私は結構「このくらいは仕方ないよね」って
無意識に我慢してたなって、あとから気づきました。

去年の終わりに、ビジネスのパートナーシップを手放したんだけど、
相手が悪いとかじゃなくて、
自分の中のその「自分が後が当たり前」に気づいたのが大きかった。

で、ある出来事をきっかけに
「あ、これは受け入れられないな」ってなって、

じゃあ私はどこまでなら心地いいんだろう？。。。って
一回ゼロに戻って見直したんだよね。

その過程は、正直ちょっとしんどかった。
でも同時に、肩の荷がスーッと降りていく感じもあった🙏

今振り返ると、あれでよかったなって思える🙂😇🙂

そのあとも似たようなテーマが何回か来たんだけど、
そのたびに戻るのは同じところで、

「今ここで、自分も相手も大事にできる距離ってどこ？」

っていうところ。

境界線って、
相手を遠ざけるものじゃなくて、
「自分とちゃんとつながるためのもの」なんだなって、
最近すごく感じてます。

これを体感出来る体を持って生まれてる私たちって本当ラッキーだよね😊🙏👍

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