Anna Gonowon Coaching

Just wanted to introduce myself to those of you who are new here.

I’m now taking new clients for one-on-one coaching. If you’d like my help thinking through a situation in love, life, or both, we can look closely at what’s happening and work through it all. Session information is available through the link in my bio.

My four-week guided process group runs every month, and registration for December opens soon. I’ll also have holiday guides available shortly. I’ll share more about both here soon.

Even if you don’t feel ready for a one-on-one session or to join the four-week process group, you can still DM me. I’ll do my best to answer any questions that you have.

How do you define happiness? What makes you happy?

I pose these questions to my life strategy clients fairly often, but a client's answer made me ask myself the questions again.

If spending time with someone you love comes to mind, what does that time look like? I’m interested in the details of what makes being together enjoyable for you. I'm also curious about the interests that hold your attention so completely that you’re happy just being there, doing whatever it is you’re doing.

What would be all over your list? How would you describe the feeling those experiences give you?

Comment PROCESS if you’d like me to create a video with more details about how I assess the probability of reconciliation for my coaching clients.

If you want reconcile with an ex, you can spend a lot of time trying to understand where things stand. You may also hesitate to ask directly about reconciliation because you're afraid of hearing no.

In one-on-one coaching, we can work through questions like this one. I’ll give you my assessment and explain what I’m basing it on. You’ll have room to discuss the parts you’re still unsure about and consider what you’re comfortable doing next.

I’m now taking new clients for one-on-one coaching. Session information is available through the link in my bio.

Holiday guides available soon.

At 52, I enjoy knowing what I like and being able to do things just as I like. Growing up Filipino in Arkansas gave me a particular idea of what a comfortable home is, and I try mix Southern and Filipino familiarity in all of our residences.

Two of my super powers are 1) being able to almost immediately create detailed pictures of anything in my mind and 2) the absolute belief that, if I can imagine it, I obviously can make it, regardless of the existence of a blueprint or instructions. The practical details occasionally require investigation and experimentatiob. 😂

So, when it came to these parols - Filipino Christmas Stars, I was convinced that I could make ones that reflected my Arkansas childhood and love of the South. I think I did a pretty good job!

When people close to you have strong opinions about your life, their advice can leave you questioning your own judgment or even confused about what to do, if anything. You might feel fairly clear about what you want to do before you receive advice, but then you have a conversation with a friend and you start reconsidering everything. And when different people start giving you different pieces of advice, it can become really difficult to figure out what you think on your own.

So this happens fairly frequently with my coaching clients. Many of them have people in their emotional support systems who care about them and also have strong opinions about what my clients should do. And because these are people whose opinions they value, it can be uncomfortable to feel so uncertain after talking with them. You may keep thinking about something a friend or a family member said, wondering how much consideration you should give the advice when making your own decisions.

So this is the sort of situation my coaching clients and I work through in one-on-one coaching sessions. In these sessions, we'll examine what's been happening in your life and relationships and talk about the advice you've been getting. We'll look at what information people are responding to and why certain opinions have been especially influential for you. We'll then consider how your friends’ and family’s preferences may be shaping what they're encouraging you to do, including how comfortable they are with uncertainty.

By getting specific about what's influencing you, we can work through what the unsolicited advice adds to your understanding of whatever is in front of you and whether it actually lines up with what's important to you.

I'm taking new one-on-one coaching clients. If you'd like this sort of focused attention on your own situation and life, you can find more information about working with me and book a session through the link in my bio.

The start of new relationships have a high probability of giving us exciting, passionate, and thrilling experiences. And because the time you spend together feels so good, it can be difficult to figure out what the relationship will be like when the routines and schedules of life take over.

This comes up fairly frequently with my coaching clients who are dating someone new or reconnecting with an ex. They’re excited about what’s happening and also trying to think carefully about whether the relationship would work over time. And because they’re enjoying themselves, it can feel uncomfortable to have these questions.

This is the sort of situation my coaching clients and I work through in one-on-one coaching sessions. In these sessions, we examine what’s been happening with the person you’re seeing and talk about what you’re enjoying, along with any questions you’re having. We also look at how the relationship is fitting into your everyday life and the effort each of you is putting into it.

By getting specific about your experiences, we can work through what you’re learning about the relationship.

I’m taking new one-on-one coaching clients. If you’d like this sort of focused attention on your own life and relationships, you can find more information about working with me through the link in my bio.

Although it’s difficult to admit, many of my coaching clients do share with me a desire for their exes to feel at least some of the pain they’re experiencing.

People can be really uncomfortable with the anger they feel, especially if they still care for their exes. Sometimes we judge ourselves for thinking so much about whether our exes are hurting. And at the same time, we can be upset with ourselves and our exes for how upset we feel.

These thoughts can occupy a lot of our attention, and they can be difficult to talk about. We can be in so much pain that we keep imagining our exes experiencing what we’re experiencing.

This is the sort of situation my coaching clients and I frequently work through in one-on-one coaching sessions. In these sessions, we’ll examine your history with your ex and talk about what you’re still angry about, including anything you feel you haven’t been able to express. We’ll also look at how these feelings are affecting your decisions and how much of your time they’re occupying.

By getting specific about what’s happening for you emotionally, we can work through what you’re struggling with and how you can handle it.

I’m taking new one-on-one coaching clients if you’d like this sort of focused attention on your own situation.

We can also address questions and situations like these more generally in my four-week guided process. The next group starts in November. Registration is open now. It’s another way to work through relationship decisions with guidance from me.

You can find information about one-on-one coaching and sign up for the November guided group through the links in my bio.

Being betrayed by someone close to you can make you question your own judgment. When we’re betrayed, we tend to keep going through the relationship, wondering why we believed certain explanations or stayed in the relationship as long as we did. And even when we understand and accept that they chose to deceive us, we can still feel embarrassed or angry with ourselves for trusting them.

These doubts often carry over into how we think about ourselves and getting involved with others.

This is the sort of question my coaching clients and I work through in one-on-one coaching sessions. In these sessions, we examine your history with your ex and talk about trust and the trouble you may be having now in trusting yourself. We also talk about your feelings and your confidence in recognizing a problem, including any concerns about whether you can act on it once you’re attached to someone.

By getting specific about these concerns, we can figure out what you need to work on and how that applies to any decisions that are in front of you.

I’m taking new one-on-one coaching clients if you’d like this sort of focused attention on your own situation.

We can also address these questions more generally in my four-week guided process group. The next group starts in November. Registration is open now. It’s another way to work through relationship decisions with guidance from me.

You can find information about one-on-one coaching and sign up for the November guided process group through the links in my bio.